I've read and have heard from others that porn can be extremely detrimental to a healthy sex response.

Just like a drug addict who needs increasing amounts of drugs to high, the porno user progressively needs more newer, more explicit porn to get a rise.

Perhaps a few polls are in order to get an idea .

Also read that chronic porn use increases one's "creep" factor, that women pick up on. Making the user less attractive to women; ergo he needs more porn.

Helluva vicious cycle.

Any thoughts. And before any asks: I am not a Bible thumper.

Joined group some months ago due to experiencing ED to varying degrees over the last few years. But getting things worked out thru exercise.

And married folks...do they need more and wilder stuff to stay interested? Wouldn't this be the largest group of "sex addicts" in need of study? I mean it's not like they seek out porn...they got their own live sex toy right there at home with them....they married it. A porn addict might seek out porn on the net...but would they legally entangle their emotional/financial/etc lives for a lifetime? 20 bucks for a dirty website subscription compared to 10's of 1000's for a wedding to show off the new sex toy to friends and family where everyone knows will get "used and abused" on the wedding night and on that special porn trip...

the honeymoon. Do porn addict's friends and family throw them "showers" and parties to get all worked up to downloading a dirty movie?

OK, Charles may have lost me for a bit there, but I get the jist of it. This isn't allowing for those that actually get inspired by porn. A few friends of mine have happily married parents that look at lots of smut.

The thing is, you have to grow and be honest about it. Don't let it be your other lover. The guys that treat their porn like it's not for anyone else to see are the ones risking it being a problem. It's likely to be a shock when found. Cause arguments, distract instead of unite.

It's the deception that makes porn a marrage wedge.

There's no "creep factor" that goes with porn viewers. Porn just gets the blame. There are simeballs around with no porn in their life at all.

Next!

I've read and have heard from others that porn can be extremely detrimental to a healthy sex response.

Just like a drug addict who needs increasing amounts of drugs to high, the porno user progressively needs more newer, more explicit porn to get a rise.

Perhaps a few polls are in order to get an idea .

Also read that chronic porn use increases one's "creep" factor, that women pick up on. Making the user less attractive to women; ergo he needs more porn.

Helluva vicious cycle.

Any thoughts. And before any asks: I am not a Bible thumper.

Joined group some months ago due to experiencing ED to varying degrees over the last few years. But getting things worked out thru exercise.

Thx

I disagree. Porn can be very addicting. And it can change your psychological and physilogical responses to the real thing and real situations. I know, I've been there in the past; as have partners.

I don't know about the creep factor with women, but just in terms of other aspects of a healthy sex life, it can be bad. I'm not saying that porn is unhealthy, just that too much of it (just like too much of anything) can be a bad thing.

Sure. but that's no reason assume it's all bad. We need sugar in our system and can have too much. Same thing. Just because some people can't hold up to whipped sugar isn't cause to ban all sugar. It takes knowing what kind of sugar you can take and how much.

...OK, I shifted to the sugar analogy thinking it would be easier for Charles to take, only to realise there may be diabetics in the forum too.

Anyway, most people look up and say, "I've had too much porn." at some point and taper it down. What young guy hasn't had a weekend on the sofa with real boobs on the tube, looked up Monday and wished they could just see another video, then thought, "What am I thinking? I need to find somebody!"

What the heck. I'll weigh in on this topic too. I have found that watching porn with my wife can be very stimulating. It has helped our attitudes sometimes. It is fun to suspend time and just consider each other's basic animal desires.
As mentioned before, it is like anything else, take it in moderation and take it with your partner too. It can be nice.

I heard about a young man who went to his doctor very concerned about a personal problem.

He hesitated, and took a while to explain what was wrong but finally opened up to the doctor.

He told the doctor he was concerned because his penis was turning yellow.

The doctor began to question him about when this had first happened and if there had been any life style changes around the time he first noticed this condition.

The young man said that it seemed to start shortly after he had been laid off from his job and that he had not yet found a new job.

When the doctor asked him to describe what he was doing with all the time on his hands, the young man said, "Well, about all I do is sit around and watch porn and eat cheese curls."

Hi,

I agree your spouse needs to be seen as your own rivate sex goddess.

When you let your satisfaction come from some alternative, it seems to me to take a toll on your brains ability to be inspired by the same gal after many years. She would not like it if she knew what was happening in your head I'll bet.

No I don't have any degree on this subject either.

Where did you read this? My ED started around the same time I began looking at porn on the net but this may just be a coincidence.

If I thought that laying off the porn would improve my ED, I would give it a go.

Cheers,

Richard